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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My thoughts:

-I'm going to be frank and say that top20s and even UVA are just as hard admits from the DMV as the Ivies are. The only kids getting into UVA from our private are also getting Ivy admits.

-I regret all the time spent playing sports. All those weekends that we could have been spending more time together as a family (yes, we did drive to games but it's not the same).  All that money wasted. That is my one parenting regret.

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Don't totally disagree but what would you have been doing instead? Sitting home solving math problems and learning a fourth language isn't a good answer.

I agree that the hard core travel sports can be a bit much, especially when your kid is the worst on the team. But my kids spent tons of time playing rec sports and it was great. They enjoyed it. They made friends. We made friends. They learned a lot about teamwork, socializing, winning, losing. Skills that translate to college and the workplace. [b]Core capabilities that Tiger parents don't appreciate or value.[/b] It provided some structure and routine for our lives. But it also didn't take over our lives.[/quote]

Shame on you for your ignorance and racial implication regarding a certain group. Pushy parents of every ethnicity exist in every discipline, team sports included. Also core values like you mention can be developed outside of sports, in robotics teams, youth orchestras and chamber music, etc.

You need to bleach the bolded sentence out of your brain, PP. It's untrue at every level.

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Stop jumping to conclusions. I know many white Tiger parents. I'm Jewish and the quintessential Tiger parents I am referring to are fellow Jews. So shame on you. And no, robotics and orchestra are not the same. Sorry. My kids do both. Each has a lot of value. But the denial of the value of sports is setting your kid up to fail. But you can just call me a lazy "mediocre" American and continue to complain about why the system doesn't work for you. The system is what it is. Adapt or stop whining. My kids play sports with countless wonderful kids from a huge diversity of backgrounds and ability levels who are open-minded people.[/quote]

You continue to be hateful. You continue to make wrong assumptions Stop it. No one said you were lazy or anything (and I don't care that you're Jewish or American). But you really need to accept that any activity, taken with rigor and to the top level, will teach all the core values. Perhaps your children did competitive sports and less competitive or less rigorous non-sport activities. I am here to tell you that my kids did the opposite, which meant that their team building, work ethic, etc, developed in their intensive activity, and not the non-intense sports one. They are young adults and high schoolers. We can see the outcomes already.

I don't like posters such as you who are so convinced they are right when they haven't actually had enough experience to know what they're talking about. Sports is not the be-all, end-all.

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