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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Love when schools notify families when it’s too late to fully participate in the admissions cycle for the upcoming school year. [/quote]

It's not really the school's fault if the student engages in unacceptable behavior after the admissions cycle for the following year has concluded. It's not reasonable to expect the school to keep the kid another year and a half (assuming genuinely unacceptable behavior) just because the kid acted out after the private school admissions deadlines had passed.

I agree with others that outside of behavior that is crossing the line by any standard (e.g. violence) whether the objectionable behavior is a major problem generally has to do with whether the people impacted view it as a big deal. If the kid is disrupting class the teachers (along with other parents) might have a say in whether it is a big deal. If the kid is bullying another kid (or kids) those kids parents' attitudes (and, unfortunately, sway at the school) will play a role in determining whether it is a big deal. So it might not be obvious to you as the offender's parent that it is a big deal, without the other context.

I also agree that your reaction (as the offender's parent) can play a role in whether the school wants to try to work on the issue with your family. If you responded with minimization (e.g. "it's not a big deal") or with anger, or with denial, or defensively,  or you blamed others (e.g., the teacher, the other kids) the school might conclude that you will be too difficult to work with on this issue. It's hard not to instinctively jump to your own kid's defense and believe only your own kid's account, but that (very natural) response can make the school disinclined to work with your family on a behavior issue. [/quote]

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