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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean this kindly, but seeking 100% custody and having a parent evaluator in your life is unlikely to get you anything more than 50% custody and has vastly increased the amount of stress in your life. I don’t know your situation, but if your position on custody became more flexible, do you think you could perhaps negotiate a divorce that would be smoother and be done faster? Given what you heard from the evaluator perhaps it is time to find a less stressful path.

And I’m very, very sorry if shared custody is a terrible outcome for your kids. I just think you may need to be more realistic about where your time could be best focused.[/quote]

I’ve desperately tried to negotiate with my DH from the day he filed. Unfortunately he filed for the evaluation hours after I submitted my response to his initial petition. His attorney only withdrew an emergency hearing motion for full custody and minimal child support when I signed off on the evaluation. He refused to discuss any other options.

It’s heartbreaking.

I understand that since he has initiated the evaluation, it is extraordinarily unlikely that anything short of 50/50 custody will happen and since he’s asking as a dad, it’s very possible that he will get far more than 50%. I believe that the aggressive moves he’s making as a cover for some things he’s dealing with or has done, and it is very effective. I don’t even have future money to negotiate away- his salary makes mine insignificant so it’s not like I can say “just take everything” and get him to settle.

I wish that one person didn’t have the power to create a situation like this.[/quote]

I’m so very sorry. I hope you have great legal representation. Is there a reasonable chance that even if he gets a lot of custody that he won’t actually exercise it?[/quote]

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