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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our financial situation has improved dramatically since we bought our current home. It’s a perfectly fine home and we’d like our kids (9th and 12th grade) to finish high school where they are. There aren’t really any homes we are interested in the HS district so we are strongly considering moving once the youngest leaves for college. The new home would still be in northern VA where the current home is so they could still see friends when they come home, and the new home would be nicer, they could restricted their bedrooms, etc. and I would still want it to feel like home to them.

But I worry that they would never really feel at home somewhere they didn’t grow up. DH thinks I’m absurd.

Has anyone done this and it went ok? Both kids are girls if it matters.[/quote]

You have to do what you want, after spending 18+ years focused on on the kids!  If you are within 30-45 mins of where they grew up, you didn't "move away".  They will adjust.  
BUt heck, they will adjust if you want to move cross country as well.  You don't need to spend your life catering to your kids when they don't live at home anymore
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The people who are seriously factoring in moving after their kids have left for college are probably going to spend the rest of their lives catering to their kids and grandkids.  This is just who they are and how they want to live.  If they have a great marriage and love spending time together as a family, why not?  Those of us who feel like we've compromised our own happiness for our kids too much over the years may do things differently.  I'm in that camp.   I'm going to downsize, divorce, and travel when my kids launch.  I've been delaying my own happiness for years to give my kids a stable, happy childhood and put them through college debt-free.  I'll certainly maintain our relationship in the future, but first I'm going to do me for a while. [/quote]

You sound like me (except for the divorce part - at least for now).  My youngest just started college.  I am trying to balance all of this.  I hate Maryland winters but stayed until they graduated HS.  We are now snowbirds with a house in Florida.  I will do this for another year or two, and then plan on being in Florida full-time.  I want to focus on me, not everyone else in the family.  And that is okay.  I am important too. [/quote]

Yes, focus on you!  You are important!  College aged+ kids should adapt and be happy for you.  [/quote]

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