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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our financial situation has improved dramatically since we bought our current home. It’s a perfectly fine home and we’d like our kids (9th and 12th grade) to finish high school where they are. There aren’t really any homes we are interested in the HS district so we are strongly considering moving once the youngest leaves for college. The new home would still be in northern VA where the current home is so they could still see friends when they come home, and the new home would be nicer, they could restricted their bedrooms, etc. and I would still want it to feel like home to them.

But I worry that they would never really feel at home somewhere they didn’t grow up. DH thinks I’m absurd.

Has anyone done this and it went ok? Both kids are girls if it matters.[/quote]

You have to do what you want, after spending 18+ years focused on on the kids!  If you are within 30-45 mins of where they grew up, you didn't "move away".  They will adjust.  
BUt heck, they will adjust if you want to move cross country as well.  You don't need to spend your life catering to your kids when they don't live at home anymore
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Living far from family is a pretty huge deal if you have limited time or resources. My parents are overseas (I am the one who moved) and I have spent probably 100k over the years visiting them alone, with the kids...so you have to be mindful and realize you might have to go visit/not expect them to visit all the time.[/quote]

We do that. Both kids attended college 2-3K miles from home.  One landed near where they went to college, other is finishing up college now.  If they find a job nearby, great, but they are more focused on the jobs they want and not the "where is the job located" at this point.  They know we will fly to them and pay for them to fly to us as well.  I'd never want to make my kids feel they had to "live nearby us" unless they found the right job nearby.

Definately don't expect the kids to pay and fly to us all the time.  But we find if we offer to pay, they will join us on vacations and happily fly to us a lot of the time :-) [/quote]

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