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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here and these responses have been quite helpful. I’m certainly not despondent about this, and don’t think about it all the time to the point that I can’t appreciate what my child does have going for him, but I just feel silly that my friend made one choice that seems to have made everything relatively easier for her kid and in hindsight, I wish we had made the same choice. Our kid could have hated it and insisted on stopping, which would’ve been fine, but it really does seem like the kind of activity that can help distinguish a student in a universe where it’s otherwise quite difficult to do so.

And yes, the languages are French and Spanish.  [/quote]

Nobody makes the perfect choice every time.

Literally, it’s ok to do something that turns out to be less than ideal.

Let. It. Go.

Not just for your own mental health. Do it for your kid.

You may think you’re hiding it, but no doubt he’s aware of how you feel. Unless he’s 100% clueless, it is likely to plant doubt in his mind about his path.

It’s also an example of poor modeling.

Kids who grow up seeing their parents dwell on their imperfect choices often grow up thinking perfection is the goal and anything less is a disaster or failure. 
It’s a one-way ticket to risk-aversion and anxiety.

The best thing to do now: Let. It. Go. [/quote]

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