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[quote=Anonymous]"I have no desire to remarry and he says neither does he, am a high GS fed (he’s currently unemployed/“self-employed”), and we have a second house house he can live in. If the ADHD medication route doesn’t work, I think this is the way so my kids’ lives are not blown up and I’m not paying him child support. We’re low conflict, friendly when he’s stable, and he’s a decent dad."

If this was OP who wrote this, you should be aware that if your DH is not bringing in much money now, you will almost certainly have to pay him alimony on top of child support. DC is not nearly as bad as VA. I'm not sure which one you're in. But in VA, the default will be that the higher earning subsidizes the low/no earner so that they can maintain the lifestyle they've been accustomed to until now. So, you'll be forced to live at a lower standard of living in order to be able to keep him nice and comfy. It is ridiculous how the rules work in some jurisdictions. In DC, the low/no earner has to demonstrate that they cannot afford to live a non-poverty life without your help, but not in VA. Depending on how long he's not worked and his age, he might not even be expected to get an easy cashier job to defray the amount you'd need to pay him as alimony. [/quote]

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