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[quote=Anonymous]Meh. I have this problem in my relationship. I've been married 17 years; we have 3 children.  Our assets are all co-mingled; there are no separate bank accounts. We have a very good relationship.

However, the gift thing is such a perennial sore spot in our relationship! And it's rearing its head again thanks to Christmas.

My husband loves giving flashy gifts. He loves the whole process of choosing gifts and really devotes a lot of time and energy to doing so. They are often expensive items that I would not choose for myself.

I am super practical, have been since I was a child. In my view, gifts are for the person receiving them, not for the person giving them. I provide lists, and I want receipts so I can return things. I have trouble feigning gratitude when it's not something I want.

This creates sadness, disappointment, and lots of fights. I can tell I have worn my husband down, and it's unfair!

I continue (pretty unsuccessfully, if I'm honest), to consider my reaction to his gifts as my gift to him. (I'm feeling pretty badly about a fight we had just this morning, in fact).

Just trying to offer a different perspective.[/quote]

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