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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The phrase "kennel cough" could be funny in another context. For instance if two moms with kids in daycare were commiserating over the germs their kids bring home, that would be very funny.

The issue here is not that she used that term, it's that she made a point of comparing your childcare setups and went out of her way to point out why hers is "better" than yours. That's obnoxious. It would have been easy to just say something sympathetic about your kid's cough without making the claim about how her child avoids such things thanks to her nanny's diligence.

If this is the only time she did the comparison thing, I would forget about it. But I have ended friendships with other moms who talk this way all the time (constantly comparing our kid's developmental stages, childcare, schools, activities, etc. -- it gets very old very fast).

It's not about "kennel cough" it's about the drawing the unnecessary, and only flattering to her, comparison.[/quote]

The thing is when you send your child to daycare you have zero control over who actually watches your child.  If my nanny was on her phone all day I’d simply fire her, because I have that option.  Daycare parents do not. [/quote]

Only someone who had never used daycare would say something this ignorant.

Of course you know and have control over who watches your child at a daycare. Do you think parents with kids in daycare don't meet the entire staff and know them all by name, and know which person their kid is with during the day? Are you under the impression that people drop their kid's off at daycare and a faceless army takes care of them? Of course not. You will know every single teacher in the daycare.

Daycare's also tend to be vastly more communicative about what happens during the day than nannies. Some daycares even have live feeds of parts of their facility parents can check in on. Most also use apps that send photos and updates throughout the day, so you'll know which other child your kid was playing with outside in the morning, or that a specific teacher changed their diaper after nap, etc.

Daycare workers are also supervised and usually not permitted to use their phones when with kids except perhaps to check a text message. They have higher visibility and report to a boss who is present while they are working, so IMO daycare workers are less likely to spend the day looking at their phones than nannies, who have more independence and are generally not monitored by their employers except during the parts of the day when they are in the same room.

Also of course people can fire daycares the same way you can fire a nanny. [/quote]

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