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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had twins last year. One got in ED, the second was waitlisted ED to the same school (despite having the same stats if not a bit better) and then went on a long trail of many RD waitlists and rejections and some acceptances. It was incredibly hard. Ended up at a decent school but not a particularly great fit and is thinking of transferring.

Sometimes this all works out easily, sometimes it doesn't--despite doing everything right, having all the correct stats, etc. It is truly a lottery. 
There is no way to guarantee a preferred outcome or make sure it happens the way you want it too. You just have to support your kid through the process, keep the emotion low and help them see the best in the choices they're given. [/quote]

Do you think the child who didn't get I to the ED school just couldn't get past it? Is there something you would advise doing differently? Wondering if they chose a school in the end that was wildly different than the ED preferred school? I hope he/she finds a place they love. TYIA[/quote]

I'm happy to share more!
It was hard to not get into the same ED school as your twin. They are going to accepted student events and you are not and at this school there were multiple accepted student things. It was hard as a parent because at these events we were meeting all the kids who were chosen instead of our kid. We were emailed several times by the regional admissions rep "Congrats, can't wait to meet you!" and all I felt like saying "what was wrong with my second kid... and why won't you knowledge receipt of their LOCI emails? (x 2 and the rep never even acknowledged getting the emails).

Advice: 
-Don't count on an ED deferral turning into an admission. I know at the time you cling to the hope but for most top 30 schools the chance of a deferral turning into a RD admit can be 5%. I don't know anyone who was successful at a top college last year unless they were a legacy. The rest of the kids I know were never admitted. 
-APPLY WIDELY in RD because that is when the true crap-shoot begins. I know on DCUM there are a few posters who jump in and say "kid was rejected in ED but then got into 4 Ivies" but that is exceedingly rare.  My kid and most we knew were rejected to most RD schools because the acceptance rates even at places like Vandy, BC, ND, etc all drop in RD, often to under 5% and in some cases under 3% (just to give some examples.) Even if it's 10%, 90% of those kids are not getting in. My son ended up with some good options because we applied everywhere in RD.  Two of the top choices were places we had never visited and weren't on the radar at all until apps were due in Jan. 
Good luck!![/quote]

Thanks. You said that he was thinking about transferring now. What kind of school did he end up at and what about that choice isn't a fit?[/quote]

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