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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Were a lot of parents super emotionally available in older generations? Love my parents, but they were/are not that way. I think the healthiest thing to do is just to use that as a "what not to do with my own kids" manual and just accept them as they are, shortcomings and all. Do I have a little bitterness at times? Sure. Bringing it up would not change anything because as you say the response (in my parents' case) would be for them to be very hurt, but they can't go back and do it all better than they did.[/quote]

OP here, in my own case, the confrontation already happened and the parents are doubling down on attack, they are denying everything, and is speaking in a way that prop themselves up, pretend they were perfect parents.  When confronted with more concrete things that are harder to deny, such as alcoholism (he is life-long alcoholic), or other specific examples, they went into full blown attack mode.  Honestly, if they just acknowledge just a little bit of the truth, I would be willing to forgive.  [/quote]

How arrogant of you.[/quote]

Not pp. How moronic of you. Alcoholism is a valid reason for cutting off someone. How sick of you to minimize it. You boomers are a sick bunch. [/quote]

Doubt OP is a boomer. Most of us have parents that are in their 90s or dead. [/quote]

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