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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think being estranged for the reasons you describe is dumb and overdramatic and that there are a lot of therapists out there convincing people to break ties with loved ones over feelings that at the end of the day are really invalid and don't merit such dramatic action.

Really? You're going to stop talking to parents because you thought they were "emotionally unavailable?" And you think you're the mature one? What idiot therapist suggested you do that?

Now, I'm going on your word here that there was no actual abuse. That's a different story. But, my GOD, the navel gazing with some young people today. Because, yes, what you're describing is an inevitable paradox of being so self-centered. "Boohoo, you didn't validate my feelings enough when I was a child so I'm to call you on it and if you don't fulfill your role in my little fantasy to my satisfaction even if it hurts your own feelings, I'm going to cut you off."

Talk about emotional manipulation.[/quote]

Bold talk from the cohort who mastered emotional manipulation. Not a single person I've ever known distanced themselves from family for trivial reasons.

It's also telling that you always assume a therapist has manipulated a patient into a cut off. It isn't surprising because that is how you manage relationships. Relationships to you are all about manipulating people to get what you want. Also don't blame therapists for the cut offs. That isn't how therapy works. Adults get to choose the way they want their life to be and if it is in their best interest to distance themselves from family, so be it. Your cohort of peers have a hard time with change. You need to focus on yourself and your rude boundary overstepping. [/quote]

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