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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s normal to feel that way. Maybe she was proud of you and knew you didn’t need it. Curious what the rest of her will says- does the rest go to Charity? [/quote]
No. $75k went to one cousin, the rest split equally between her six children. There are about 15 cousins, and we were each willed a “thing”, if we wanted it (someone got a gun, for example) other than the one cousin who got a the money. None of my cousins were close with grandma, many didn’t even speak to her. The cousin who got money was close, but not as close as me. [/quote]

So that cousin’s parents was one of the six children that got an equal amount? Plus that cousin got the 75,000.?

Is there a complicated situation with those parents?[/quote]
Nothing more complicated than my upbringing, if that’s what you mean. Complicated divorce, her dad ended up dying when she was young. My dad also died when I was young. We both grew up with equal familial support. In all honesty, I never really made the comparison until right now. We lived almost lived the same life. [/quote]

Let me explain this to you.

I have 6 siblings. One is dead and divorced before death.

My parents estate was split 6 ways... 5 parts went to me and my siblings and the 6th portion when to my dead siblings children. That is the way estates work.

So your cousin got their father's portion. You did not get your father's portion because he never divorced your mom. [/quote]

You don’t know if that is the situation or not. If it is, I think OP could’ve figured that out already. [/quote]

Many people don’t understand that wills are frequently written that the children inherit “per stirpes” which means that if one of the beneficiaries has predeceased the parent, the children of the beneficiary who died receive his amount. This is a very common way that wills are written, but I’ve talked to a number of people over the years who are not aware of it. The OP might not realize that her cousin simply received her dead parent’s portion, not a special amount that the grandmother gave to her but not to any of the other cousins.

OP, is this a possible explanation? Please come back and let us know. 
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I am hoping for OP's saje that this is the case. OP, please let us know.[/quote]

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