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[quote=Anonymous]Dear OP,
I've spent the past few years reconciling myself to the fact that my mother will leave me nothing.
She will leave most of her estate to the children who have been clawing at her since high school.
I, on the other hand, received huge grants from academic institutions, married a generous man, had great kids, suffered my way into adulthood without her help and did a lot of home improvement for her over the years.
It does not feel fair but nothing is fair. Wills are emotional expressions and people (especially women), need to feel needed. 
My family poverty made me try to be self-sufficient. For my siblings, it made them more desparate for anything they could get. And my mother responded to that in kind.

Somehow we are deludeded by this idea that things are equitable. The government tries to be equitable. When it comes to elders with emotional complexity, nothing is ever equitable.
If they were not equitable in life, they will not be in their death.
This goes to show why jury selection is such an important process. There is so much bias out there.[/quote]

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