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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So weird to me that people think living together in open marriage is ‘better’ for anyone [/quote]

Why? If they get along it could be a great solution.[/quote]

Statements like this are always made by people who know no one in these situations or covet them for themselves. Open marriages don’t work with kids, the end. When they’re launched? Do whatever the hell you want. Otherwise just get divorced and date like a sane person. Ugh, I hate the “I can have it all!” people.[/quote]

Not that PP but I am divorced. An open marriage absolutely would have worked. Kids don't need to have any exposure to dating life. In fact, I think it would be best to do it that way but rarely people agree on this. If both people did, it would be an ideal situation.[/quote]

So in your post-divorce life, have you dated with teens in the house (or do you live with teens)? Now double that if your H was doing it too. Now keep that behavior hidden from the kids (both of you), since they need “no exposure” to your dating life. Or don’t keep it hidden, and talk to the kids about how mom and dad have boyfriends and girlfriends. Be sure to check their phones for how that news goes over with their friends on the group chat.

People who share a household don’t live their lives in a vacuum and trying to engage in these artificially created adult relationships while raising these kids really doesn’t work. It isn’t a morality stance. It creates an unstable and confusing and frankly weird household for kids who are just trying to make their way through adolescence.

Again, enjoy wading into that world when the kids are launched. But the adults who don’t understand what the priorities are really do their families a disservice. I watched a family try this. The parents were incredibly self-satisfied about their evolved choices while the kids were imploding.[/quote]

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