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But when I think of dressing “fun” I think of Prue on Great British Bake Off. I love everything she’s wearing, especially the jewelry. I wouldn’t wear it, though, and things like the mumu’s are quite aging.[/quote]

I feel like it's hard to start dressing like that in midlife. People who have been dressing quirky their whole lives have it baked in, but if you suddenly start wearing super bright patterns and technicolor accessories in your 40s, people will think you are having a midlife crisis. Once your kids are out of the house and you are in the retirement/grandma zone, people will view it more as you just letting loose and relaxing.

I think that's the hardest thing about dressing in my 40s. I still have a kid in elementary school, I'm still mid-career and viewed as "young" by many people I work with (who are in their late 50s and 60s) so I have to think about how other people perceive me and there are professional and social risks to dressing "fun". It just feels like a tricky time to be expressive, even though I dressed very fun and colorfully in my 20s and well into my 30s.[/quote]

You are way overestimating how much other people care about what you are wearing. [/quote]

+1. It’s actually kind of embarrassing to think anyone assigns meaning to your accessories/clothes colors/age. [/quote]

huh? what world are you living in? Of course people assign value and judgment based on your outward appearance. If people aren't noticing your clothes, there's judgment on that as well. [/quote]

No, sane people don’t decide you’re having a mid life crazy because you wear colors in your 40s. Some of you live small lives.[/quote]

OP didn't say "wear colors" -- she said "dress fun." That means wearing clothes that are attention grabbing, maybe a little eccentric. "Fun" implies clothes that people will notice and that will stand out in a sea of businesswear.

And yes, if someone was always dressed in business casual neutrals and then started wearing vibrantly patterned clothes, hats, and shoes, some people will absolutely think it is some kind of mental health issue. Especially in many of the industries common in DC -- corporate law, policy, consulting, etc. This doesn't mean someone lives a "small life" (hello, judgmental), it means that they know they will be judged for their clothes and have to think about how it could impact their career and how people perceive them.

If you're a kindergarten teacher or work in a creative field, it's totally different. But most of us aren't in that situation.[/quote]

I am a DC lawyer and have been for decades. No, nobody thinks you have a metal health issue because you start wearing vibrant colors. You are living in your own head and so fearful of the world and what people think. Yes that’s small. Who cares if it’s judgmental- welcome to the internet. [/quote]

You are the one being small. You are judging a woman for NOT dressing "fun" enough for you. Who cares? It's okay to dress to blend in if you want to. Some people are shy or private and do not want to draw attention to themselves via their clothes. Why is that "small"? You are being small-minded in assuming your priorities and preferences are correct and anyone who thinks different is wrong.

Not at all surprised to learn you are a DC lawyer, many of you seem to have this same personality disorder.[/quote]

Pretty sure that, based on your post, you are the one with the personality disorder.

-- not the pp, but I am another DC lawyer[/quote]

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