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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Those reasons and probably several others.

It's pathetic. Whatever. [/quote]

[b]+1 and it seems like most people have woken up and realized how stupid it is.[/b] [/quote]

I have noticed this too. It's great. [/quote]

Imagine being so miserable and pathetic that a picture of your friends having a good time bothers you this much. Are you jealous? [/quote]

DP. It is perfectly normal to feel jealous or left out when presented with a photo of people from your community having fun together. It need not be a particularly intense feeling and most people move on from it easily, but it's a normal and human response because humans are social creatures whose security is dependent on belonging in a community. A photo like that is likely to prompt a temporary (and primal) fear that the individual may not be securely part of the group. Most people will remember that, actually, they are securely part of the community via other means and move on.  But that initial pang of jealousy or, more accurately, fear, is pretty common and normal. If someone cannot move on, it may be because they do not have secure belonging in a community, in which case their fear is real and understandable, not something to be criticized and derided.

The greater question is what compels people to post such photos to public feeds? I believe it is related to the same fear. People post these photos as a way of asserting their belonging in the community. They may be particularly compelled to post photos that show them in high status settings or with high status people, as a self-protective way of showing how embedded they are. In this case, posting the photo is actually done, on some level, to provoke jealous and fear from people who may be further from the inside, high status parts of the community. Thus the feeling of jealous/fear that many people feel when seeing these photos is actually the intended effect the poster hopes it to have.

Your choice of the words "miserable" and "pathetic" -- exclusionary words that emphasize the low and outsider status of the person to whom you are talking -- indicate that this is a behavior you participate in and that it is very much about asserting your belonging over that of others when you do so.[/quote]

Too. Many. Words. Wut.[/quote]

Some ideas require explanation. This is a serious conversation, there is some nuance.[/quote]

Not really.  Adults are allowed to use social media as they please.  Ignore if you don’t like it.
~~DP[/quote]

We don’t have to ignore it, we are “allowed” to discuss it. [/quote]

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