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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I used to do this and have stopped. I generally will ask myself before posting, [b]"Who is the audience for this/why am I posting this?"[/b]

Sometimes there is a good reason. But often it is unnecessary and potential hurtful to people who were not included in the gathering for whatever reason.

I used to be a part of a group of women (grew apart due to geography) where posts like this caused so much drama over who was or wasn't included, why so and so posts about outings with Larla but not Linda, etc. And as a PP said, it becomes a circle jerk or likes or reposts. It was toxic and not behavior that 30-40 something women should be modeling for their own kids. [/quote]

This! I stopped posting on social media four years ago and this is what did it it. Ask yourself, who is this really for?[/quote]

+a million

If you are really honest with yourself, the answer is often something petty like "my ex boyfriend" or "that coworker who thinks she's soooo much better than me." If it's really just for the people in the photo, there are other ways to share -- I always really enjoy the day after text threads with friends when we share photos or thank you for the host/organizer after getting together, and when it happens in a private text thread it feels more authentic than splashing it on social media where a bunch of random people will see it.

Being just generally more private has been so much better for my mental health, and if it also means that someone out there isn't looking at my post and thinking "I guess I wasn't invited because they don't like me" well that's an added benefit. Probably that person wasn't invited because we just don't know them that well, but I don't want them sitting around feeling bad about it either! I've watched my kid work through exclusion and other friend stuff in elementary at this point and realize how hard it is. I don't want to cause other people pain.[/quote]

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