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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there’s a lot of undercurrent here. Not the same but I have two friends with toddlers nearby (my own is a teen). One of them I like babysitting for because their house is clean, their kid is easygoing, and it’s their first and I approve having at least one kid. 
The other friend has two older kids, is mentally unstable but decided to have a third despite having no family support. She has a dog so the house is chaotic and smelly. The kid is quite attached to her so it takes her a while to warm up to strangers. The one time I babysat the kid kept trying to get into older kids’ rooms (the doors were closed) instead of playing with me. I did try to engage her, I am good at it, but the older kids would pass through and she would run after them. The longest couple hours ever. [/quote]

You sound mentally ill [/quote]

Okay you can think that but then so are the grandparents  in question. When you don’t approve someone’s lifestyle or they just aren’t fun for you to be around you don’t visit. Simple as that [/quote]

This was in response to the person posting who babysat for a few kids, one of whom was young and apparently didn’t enjoy the experience and tried to go to her older siblings [/quote]

I am that person. I responded again. What I was trying to say is: sometimes parents don’t approve of their kids’ lifestyle, or don’t like their partner, or don’t like the grandkids (it’s taboo to say it but there are more and less likeable kids out there). There are so many reasons why grandparents don’t really want to visit much. [/quote]

Or they just don’t like any kids, period. [/quote]

That can be the reason as well. But as someone who isn’t yet a grandparent but has a situation that is as close to grandparenting as possible (my kid is older and I like small kids and I like helping my friends) I can say that there are usually subtle issues involved. [/quote]

Voluntarily babysitting someone else’s toddlers when you have teens isn’t really the same thing as grandparenting.

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