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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents and ILs are like this. The truth is that we are their least favorite children, they don't like where we live, they don't enjoy spending time with us, and they have minimal interest in our daughter. That's it. It's sad but it's the truth and it's only in the last couple years that DH and I have come to accept it and decided to, for instance, visit them less and just stop worrying about it. They just don't really want to see us. They haven't disowned us or anything, there was not falling out or specific reason for this. They are just indifferent.

Also when we do see them, they will only talk about our siblings and their kids. This is especially hard on DD who feels she is often being compared to her cousins, often unfairly. For instance she will tell her grandparents that she had a special solo in her ballet recital, and they will ask no follow up questions or ask to see video of it or any of the things you might expect a grandparent to do. They will instead make a comment about how they prefer sports to dance, and then go on a 20 minute tangent about my nephew's baseball season. I love and am proud of my nephew, but this imbalance does not go unnoticed by my DD, who has stopped sharing details of her life with my parents because she realized they don't care.[/quote]

PP with two friends with little kids here. This is what I was talking about. It’s very sad and unfair but it’s the truth. I can afford the favoritism because it’s my friends and not my kids, I would never do this to my adult kids (probably?) but I can see those reasons, sadly. 
I see myself not visiting if my child in law is insufferable for example. So all I am saying is that there’s usually something that grandparents don’t like. [/quote]

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