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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I make $135k and my boyfriend makes around $4M. I expect him to bring up a prenup at some point."

My advice is for you to bring it up first, after you promptly consult with an attorney. Start the conversation on YOUR terms, not his lawyer's.

Do NOT assume you'll divorce or die in the exact same jurisdiction as you're living in now. Prenups help with both divorce and death. They can also deal with conditional things like whether you have a child from your marriage. What will happen if one of you stops working? Will one of you want the other to stop working, like to stay home with kids? For example, you might want to include that once he gets that $28M payout, he stops working and stays home when your first child is born. Are there things he will ask you to do to help advance his earning? (Like not take a job in another city, or not work full time so you can host work parties?) If so, then that should be stated now as a possibility, and there should be an agreement on how you'll handle the financial consequences of that. Maybe your dream is to go to med school and be completely unavailable to host parties. If so, you need to state that now.

You need to talk through how you'd handle various scenarious now, while you're still in love and you both want what's fair and best for one another. [/quote]

I was able to negotiate college paid by exH in the prenup, in addition to 50/50 split of everything earned in marriage . He's still bitter about it. [/quote]

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