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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are in year 20 of your marriage and discover that your spouse had a 3 month long affair 10 years earlier, would you say anything?

Do you think it matters if the spouse being cheated on was the  wife or husband?[/quote]

It doesn’t matter.

You did say something. What’s your question?

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He wants DCUM women to tell him yes it could have been just once ten ago and it never happened again and doesn’t matter. That way he doesn’t have to make any painful decisions.

Sorry OP the answer is no it wasn’t just once a long time ago, and if you have kids, better get their paternity tested.[/quote]

Are you psychic? No? Didn’t think so.

OP, what’s your question?
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You don’t need to be psychic to predict how a man who just discovered his wife cheated is going to act, dolt. They all act the same way. They hope their life won’t be turned upside down and that everything can continue as before. They’re always wrong.[/quote]

Yes, every person acts exactly the same way in a given situation. Cheating wives and cuckolded husbands. Yes, that’s the way humans are. All exactly the same.

Like all the people on this one tiny thread who have reacted differently to this one situation. Yup.

Three pages in and OP hasn’t asked a question. 
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NP.

There’s a lesson for OP in all of this.  To the OP, you are now a cuckold and you can never undo that.  She didn’t make a single regrettable mistake here; she is still talking and bragging to her friend about it (that’s not regret, BTW).  Think about what her friend thinks of you whenever she see you:  she also sees you as a cuck.  The people up-thread who said this will eat at you? They are right 99% of the time.

My advice as to how to respond to her decade long deception?

Play nice (for now).  Drop the issue and play nice with her.

Hire a lawyer, discretely.  Do exactly what your lawyer advises.  Quietly move assets into your name alone.

Record everything she says.  Again, be discrete and play nice. Whatever happens later, never ever leave the house voluntarily; she is the one who will be moving out.

Plan ahead for ways to get full custody; see if it’s possible to deny her visitation.  Now is the the time to be strong, calm, and take care of yourself and your children and protect yourselves from her.[/quote]

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