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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about he picks up on Christmas morning at about 10am? I LOVE Christmas, but the real celebration is Christmas eve and then Christmas morning. After that we just relax and put together new toys. [/quote]

Maybe in your family, but OP here and after Christmas morning DC and my favorite part is to wake up to Santa, then after seeing all the presents and calling relatives, we read new books under the tree until the afternoon, when we prep to have Christmas dinner with friends. The quiet middle of Christmas Day is one of the best parts of the entire year.

I'm realizing from this thread that it is very difficult if not impossible to seek outside advice about holidays because everyone celebrates so differently and has different aspects of their traditions that they're happy to flex or can't budge on. So even if this thread isn't solving my dilemma, it's helping me see how clinically the parent evaluator or judges or mediators might see the situation and how unimportant our traditions will be to any outsider.

The thought just hit me that I just went from a life where I thought I had 8 more Christmases with my child before college to maybe only 4. I'm heartbroken to have my only DC's childhood fast-forwarded on me by STBX and his decision.

Crazy that marriage and having a baby take two people, but one person can unilaterally upend an entire family for the rest of their lives.[/quote]

OP kindly - you need to accept the situation and that it is unreasonable for you to argue you get all of every Christmas because you like it more.  Get creative and think about how you can split it up (like you get Xmas day and he gets Xmas Eve) or get comfortable with the idea that you will alternate. You already have 80% custody for reasons I assume are good. [/quote]

This, but the more unrealistic about holidays OP is, the more I wonder if the reason for 80% custody is also good.[/quote]

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