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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This sounds like you are amplifying your problems with your attitude and some of your statements are just provocative enough that this thread is making my spider senses go off. I'll still bite, because if this is real you really sound like you need a hand.

So here goes. Kids are hard, yes. And you are at ground zero right now, from the sound of it. But you seem to have a tremendous amount of resentment built up for your wife, and your perspective sounds like something is off with you, not just your situation. I mean, two kids, and it is really "zero-reward?" That says something is seriously wrong and it cannot just be the fact that you have kids. Where are your friends? Why don't you take your children with you to lunch with friends? Why can't you invite a friend over? Yes, if your wife really won't hire a babysitter, ever (especially if competent, caring family is in town), that's an issue that you must work out with her and she has to compromise some. But you also have room to compromise here. I would not have wanted to leave an 8 month old overnight, either. That's very normal for some people, though others will feel quite differently. Both feelings are valid.

Anyway, you sound really upset, so i don't want to pile on, but yes, parenting is HARD. [b]However, you sound like you are making it harder still with a negative attitude[/b]. I think you need to break the cycle. There are two people in your house. When you're ready to pop, say "I am going to go for a bike ride. I'll be gone for an hour." and go. Blow off steam. If you really can't work that out, then [b]your issue is not parenting, it's yourself and possibly your relationship. [/b]
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Are you a therapist?  All of this is spot on.  [/quote]

Lobbyist, actually--LOL! [/quote]

I am a therapist and this is not good advice at all.  It is shaming the person for perfectly valid feelings.  Stick to lobbying. [/quote]

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