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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you were very clear that you have no issue with this family never reciprocating (I’m the same way) but feel bothered that the other mother lied in a way that was damaging to your daughter’s friendship, even in a really minor way. I think it would have been fine to say oh, we were available and would have loved to see you! So sad we didn’t get to make that happen. So she can go ask her mom and the mom can come up with a different lie next time.

But since the moment is past I would try to let it go and if you want to keep this friendship alive emphasize that you LOVE hosting and really prefer it and it’s so nice that they have been willing to come to you next time you talk to the mom. Give her a way to save face and keep the friendship alive (if you want to). I try really hard to not hold parents’s weirdness against the kids.[/quote]

Omg, please do not throw this other mom under the bus with her own kid! What is wrong with you?[/quote]

It is not throwing the other mom under the bus to point out they lied about you. If the kid misunderstood she could go home and report to her mom that we were available and the mom could clarify they were the ones who were busy and just continue to say they are busy every weekend, forever. Or she could grow a spine and just say sorry we are not hosting playdates at our house. I mean seriously. I am learning from this thread you all lie to your kids a lot. You should stop, you are going to get caught eventually.[/quote]

I am a parent who has empathy for other parents and also does not assume a 5 yr old is perfectly and accurately reporting a conversation with their parent. I also don't care enough about playdates with kindergarteners in general to care about this. This playdate that never happened will not make even a smidge if difference in these kids lives. It does not matter.

If your attitude is that the fellow mom who may or may not have told a white lie to her kid needs her comeuppance, enjoy having ZERO parent friends. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

I have plenty of parent friends who can handle being honest with their kids. My friends would never expect me (really my kids) to do their dirty work of disappointing their kid by saying my kid is always being too busy to come over because they don’t want to host a playdate. I find it so gross that apparently this is something that people are doing routinely. What is wrong with you all?

If the kid misunderstood, I don’t see the problem in setting them straight, how is that even a consideration? [/quote]

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