Reply to How to handle this

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How to handle this"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you pulled your toddler out of childcare? Maybe he thinks you aren't planning to go back to work and are just planning on a life of lunching and having he car while he works and tries to fit in appointments etc. [/quote]

^^^^ It’s this, OP. How hard, really, are trying to find a job? I know it’s rough out there but looking for a job IS a full-time job. Act like it. You don’t go have daytime play dates with friends that require one of you to spend your tightening funds on an Uber. [/quote]

Agree with pp. You need to treat job searching like a full time job. Which means child goes back to daycare and you are literally at your desk all day from 9 to 5 or whatever full day work hours you set pounding the pavement...applying to jobs, interviewing with recruiters, studying about the positions or companies you are applying to. My man has been laid off twice in the past ten years and each time this was his strategy. I watched him in his home office spend grueling and long days searching, phone interviewing, camera interviewing, in person interviewing. You need to take your job search seriously and it doesn't quite sound as though you are doing that.[/quote]

In a 20+ year marriage, my husband has been laid off twice and I didn’t worry as I saw him work 8-10 hours a day getting a new job. Both times he got a job after 2 months. Not sure what would happen in 2025 ecenomy.

If he is over-reacting and raging at you this early in the marriage, what is going to happen as time moves on? Abusers often first start showing abuse to their partners after an event that locks their partner in: marriage, moving in, having a child, being a stay at home mom.
Also, not saying this is happening now but just to keep in mind: when spouses cheat, they often start verbally abusing their spouses. Easier to not blame yourself for cheating if you can think your spouse is “horrible, stupid, ugly”.

You need to put serious effort into getting another job for when this escalates. Consider getting cameras for main rooms of them house (not his bedroom & bathrooms) It isn’t a good sign that you spent the night separate.

Do you have help with your child so you can spend a Saturday together and talk this out?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics