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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how old is your youngest? I felt very similarly to you except about going from 2 to 3. Made more difficult as partner was on the fence leaning towards no (rather than a hard no). In any case, found that when my youngest was around 2, that longing really went away and I no longer wanted to go “back to start” — so it may be a feeling that eases naturally as youngest gets older.

It also helped to be reminded I was going to grieve my last no matter how many kids I had. [/quote]

My longing for a third did not go away (and we had one) but my desire for a fourth was(is) more manageable.  Agree that some people will always grieve being done.  Not everyone.  But I think it is well within the range of normal.  In my case it has been helpful to reflect and I know that the desire to bring another tiny person into the world is nothing to what it was last time.  This time, it is more nostalgic than it is a desire to have another person at my table however many years down the road.

If OP is really that intensely grieving for a fourth, though, that’s valid and that’s hard.  I’m sorry.  I don’t think it’s easy to be talked out of these feelings, even when you’re overruled.[/quote]

Thank you ❤️
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