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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you're a good mom for wanting to help him navigate this. If this was my son I would validate his feelings. It's ok for him to be uncomfortable with this. If he's told her he's uncomfortable and she sees nothing wrong, then his choice is to accept it or break up. I think it's important to talk about the difference between setting boundaries and being controlling. It's ok for him to decide she's not the right girl for him. It's not for him to demand that she change her behavior for him. [/quote]

He did not demand that she change her behavior for him.  He told her that specific actions of hers are making him feel sad and asked her to stop hurting his feelings that way.  That is not the same thing as making a demand.  She was able to make her own decision that his feelings on the topic will not be respected by her, and to document her lack of respect on social media.  Now he can feel sad about both her actions and her public lack of respect for his feelings.   When he breaks up with her, that will be more like a demand, because she does not get to choose that they are still together when he does not want that.[/quote]

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