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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dont think a kid delaying is entitled; I think it's  more likely just cluelessness. Any DCUM parent is telling their kid to skip grandma's funeral for a yale interview.

I interview for Princeton (already posted here) and I see far more 1st gen or very low income kids than not. They're 97% pretty great, even if half don't get back to my emails for 4 days. Being bad at email is not a thing I care about.

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I'm sure I will get blasted for this but if you want to go to a top school, you have to act like you belong. Sorry that this isn't part of your culture. Knowing how to respond in a timely manner, send a proper e-mail, make small talk, look someone in the eye when you shake hands, etc. is part of life. By age 17/18 you should be able to do this. This is part of the soft skills part of college and why just basing admissions on "merit" (i.e. test scores) doesn't work. I don't want to send my kid to college with or hire kids who are social misfits and can't do these things. My father was the child of poor immigrants and the first one in his family to go to college. He figured it out.[/quote]

You’re not joining a country club, you’re going to college. Smh. Some kids take longer to develop social skills than others. Some brilliant students might never quite get there, and that’s okay. [/quote]

I'm asking kids to have basic executive function skills at age 17/18. I don't think that is too much to ask. Kids should spend a little less time studying and a little more time learning to behave like civilized members of society.

I think this is what differentiates schools - some schools focus on this more than others. Different strokes for different folks. If a kid is allegedly so brilliant that they want to go to a very top school, then learning how to interact with others should be seen as a skill to learn like calculus, physics, or conjugating verbs in another language.

And for those who are going to label me as anti-whatever group. I have seen kids from every background who fail miserably at this.[/quote]

We’re talking about a kid who suggested a date a few weeks out and you are equating that with a lack of BASIC executive functioning skills and a need to learn to behave like CIVILIZED members of society. That’s ridiculous.  There’s nothing to see here — just a teen who could use a bit more experience with how things work. Most 17/18 year olds are still a work in progress. Do some frontal cortex research. Honest to pete. [/quote]

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