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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.[/quote]

can she masturbate herself to orgasm?

and talk about it?

that is the number one sign that a women will maintain her drive, that she can give herself an orgasm with no shame. [/quote]

This is a good indicator of sexual engagement/experience, but you can also frame it as looking for the TripleDs: Desire, Drive, and Duty.

Desire: both feeling desired by your partner and caring enough about yourself to be desirable, at least to your own standards, within reason for your personal shape and constitution
Drive: enjoying sex and your sexuality and being driven to engage sexually, including with yourself. Someone with no drive now isn't likely to pick one up later. Someone with high drive now isn't likely to fall completely off (menopause may mess with this a little, but it shouldn't be permanent or severe)
Duty: seeing sexual engagement with your partner as an important part of the relationship. This shouldn't be a chore, but it shouldn't require planetary alignment for you to see that it matters, and needs to be a regular part of maintaining your connection.

You can have a simple conversation about all of these things, and they fit for any sex/gender configuration. You and your partner should be reasonably aligned on all of these points. Losing any one of them temporarily can be overcome by the others (e.g. "I want to fsck but I don't necessarily desire you as much, but sex is how we stay connected" = we have sex; or "I still find you attractive but my meds/menopause/major work project tanked my libido so tonight I'm going to take a more passive role" = we have sex)[/quote]
Weird how your examples are about how a woman doesn't WANT to have sex but you still force her. Hmm. Weird fantasy. [/quote]

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