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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]100% this woman is mentally unwell.

However, there is exactly ZERO mental health bar for becoming a parent. Lots and lots of mentally ill parents that are parenting today.

In the perfect world these two would wake up and allow the foster parents to adopt while keeping the kids in the siblings lives. But she's still mentally unwell so nothing less than owning the children is acceptable.[/quote]

I disagree. It sounds to me like the foster parents became foster parents to “foster to adopt” and now they have the perfect children - white, healthy, no drug history, no mental health concerns.

Foster parenting should be undertaken with the goal of reunification with the child’s parents - not adoption out of foster care.

These foster parents should go rescue kids who actually need rescuing - from parents who are not fit to parent. I agree these folks are crazy. Crazy doesn’t mean the children are in actual danger. [/quote]
Fostering is really complicated and one of the most difficult things a person can do. I look down on anyone who looks down on foster parents. You have no idea what these foster parents were thinking when they brought these kids into their home. They have had them in their home for two years based on court decisions, and they seem prepared to send them away forever with a day's notice. Nothing else but caring for the twins were their decisions...but they seem to have taken good care of the kids in a situation that was never permanent.[/quote]

The foster parents are fighting for custody and have retained their own lawyer to that end (in the article).

If they were pro reunification they wouldn’t be fighting to maintain custody. [/quote]

This is pretty common in foster care and shouldn't be allowed as they are not a party to the case.[/quote]
It can get complicated if the foster parents have a reason to believe it would be harmful for the kids to go back to their biological parents. It is not uncommon for parents to eventually forfeit parental rights, and I've seen enough firsthand not to have the knee-jerk reaction that it's a tragedy when this happens.

Family law is really complicated and broken in this country. Decisions should be first-and-foremost in the best interest of the child. I understand the history for why reunification is considered the default outcome the system seeks...but that doesn't mean it's always best for the child.

TBH, there isn't enough information in this article to make any judgments about what's best for the child. The article is both sympathetic to the bio parents and also judgment, and few alternative perspectives are presented. Presumably the situation is complicated enough that the judge has set another court date.[/quote]

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