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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband grew up with 5 siblings. I had two. We have one kid. Most of these large families aren’t as loving and awesome as people think they are. [/quote]

I think there are some large families that are loving and rewarding and that people tend to fixate on those families (because they are big and loving and this combination tends to attract a lot of attention) and not really pay attention to the many large families that are dysfunctional.

Another thing that happens is that big families tend to have happy, satisfied siblings and unhappy, dissatisfied siblings. Very common, because resources within the family are often not distributed equally or fairly. You can talk to one of the siblings and they will have nothing but loving things to say about a big family and how great it was, and then you'll talk to another and not only will they not agree, they will tell you that their happy, satisfied brother or sister is happy and satisfied because they were the doted on favorite who got all the attention and praise. So even within the same big family, opinions can differ greatly as to how loving and awesome they are.[/quote]

+1 also, there are happy small families and happy big families. There are also dysfunctional small families and dysfunctional big families. The functionality of a family doesn’t really come down to size. Such a ridiculous construct to promote. [/quote]

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