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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a person who's always felt tolerated rather than accepted, I don't want a funeral. Either no one besides my husband and kids would be there or people who never really cared about me when I was alive (including my own parents if they outlive me) would come and be hypocrites. [/quote]
I’m so sorry that the people in your life — especially your parents — have let you down. You’re as worthy of respect, affection and love as everyone else. You deserve better. I hope you’re working with a therapist to unpack all of this.

However, funerals are actually for the living. If there are people who care about your spouse and children, your funeral would be the time for those people to lend them support.[/quote]

I'm the PP you're replying to-thank you for your kindness. I've been to therapy off and on my whole life, but at age 54 I've pretty much decided it is what it is.

I understand what you're saying about the funeral rituals being for the living. My husband and sons know they're free to do what will be most helpful for them, but that I wouldn't choose a funeral. I'll be dead, though, so it it makes them feel better to have one then they should.[/quote]

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