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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So much judgment here! "Daily" drinkers being equated with "heavy" drinkers and also neglectful parenting. Avoiding alcohol entirely does not make you a better parent. Also this is the second post I've seen recently casting judgment on parents who are "social" and drink. Someone seems a little anxious....  [/quote]

Do you have teenagers?  Do you drive them around later at night or wait up for them to be a ride in case they need it even if you weren't planning to drive?  How does that work after your daily drink that is not heavy drinking?[/quote]

DP. Tonight I will drink a glass of wine around 5:30 or 6 probably, eat a full dinner, and then go pick up my kid around 10. It’s not hard. [/quote]

I don't believe daily drinkers are not at times driving around after having their daily drink.  They just think it's fine to drive after a drink or two.[/quote]

Depending on their weight and other factors, it may very well be fine. It is certainly fine after a few hours.[/quote]

I don't know how people with multiple children (elementary age+) and responsibilities (some planned and some not) can carve out the hour or two every day to have their daily drink and be sure they won't need to drive.  That is certainly not how my life works.[/quote]

Well, my life with two teens does work like that. One drives themself and the other needs rides at very predictable, scheduled times. When I enjoy a glass of wine, I’m either in for the night or I know I won’t have to go back out for a few hours.[/quote]

Okay.  Some real life examples.  My non-driving teen has stuff like hey can I have a ride to Susie's house or hey I said I'd bring XYZ to school tomorrow can you bring me to CVS.  Or even hey my ride home fell through can you come pick me up.  Or can you pick me up earlier than planned.

I wish my life were fully scheduled however.  [/quote]

Cool. None of that stuff happens with mine. [/quote]

DP. ever?

One reason I drastically cut down drinking at home is that I realized that without really planning in, my nights had started to revolve around drinking. not in that I was scheming on how to do it, but that I would have thoughts like “Oh, I can’t go to that 8pm yoga class because I will probably have a glass of wine and be too sleepy” or “Oh, if I call that friend at 8 I’ll be tipsy so maybe better to talk in the AM.” I realized I was thinking that way and that it was NOT something I wanted that my activities would be limited by drinking in that way or even that I would plan around drinking at all. [/quote]

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