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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]She's 14 and he's 16? Why is he too old? That's a perfectly respectable age difference in HS[/b]. You can't control this - either insist she come straight home after school and can't go anywhere without you or another trusted adult of your choosing or don't. [/quote]

I disagree. Are junior boys normally dating freshman? No. [/quote]
Agree. He can't engage a girl his own age?[/quote]
OP has already said this is her freshman DD taking to a sophomore boy. This is a not infrequent occurrence. [/quote]
[b]But why isn’t he interested in someone his own age? He’s in a completely different place in life than her.[/b] He can drive, make money working a real job. (I know 14yo can work, but you know what I mean. Good luck finding someone to hire them.) The age difference isn’t big on paper, but it’s astronomical in terms of maturity. It’s interesting and worth noting that he can’t pull someone his own age. [/quote]

This is absurd. Last fall, my junior son was in an AP class with a sophomore girl. He thought she was cute. They started talking. They just went to their second homecoming together. I promise you my son is not that mature  :lol: The high school kids I know have a saying "if your grades touch...". It is not at all weird.

I understand OP wanting some parameters on what is allowed and her child being honest. Focus there.

I skipped a grade very early and turned 14 mid freshman year. My parents always knew I would be young in HS, but having grown up in that cohort with appropriate experiences, average maturity is probably there. I lucked out a little bit, my oldest was a freshman during Covid which bought us a little time, but she was into dating and I can say most of these relationships come and go, and they learn a few lessons along the way. [/quote]

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