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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Send regrets. [b]They don't really want you there[/b]. [/quote]

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This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.[/quote]

Plus they sending an additional [i]we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must[/i] vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?[/quote]

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.[/quote]

In our case we didn't invite kids because we got married later in life and we felt if any kids were included, all had to be included.  Our guest count would have nearly doubled by including kids and the venue couldn't accommodate it.  I will be honest, I also didn't want a wedding with over 40 kids.  That's a lot to manage![/quote]

Yeah I totally get this- it can make a big difference if you get married before most of your siblings/cousins/friends have kids.  And also your family size to begin with (e.g., I have over 20 first cousins, DH has 3).  A couple of my younger cousins have had child-free weddings and I don't begrudge them at all- I've gone solo but if it wasn't going to work out I would have just send a gift.  NBD.

OP, this is really a do-what-you-want-and-can-afford thing, there's no right or wrong answer.[/quote]

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