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[quote=Anonymous]I don't buy the "but the marriage was over a lot time ago" argument. Look at the comments on this thread talking about how it took 2, 4, 6 years to finalize the divorce, and how frustrating and unpleasant it was for that to be a drawn out process. It might have been years since you felt connected to and in love with your spouse, but the divorce itself is specifically the ordeal that you should take more time to move on from.

I cannot imagine getting engaged to someone who is like "yes my marriage has been dead for years and I just spent 2 solid years going through the separation process, dealing with the legal issues and division of property, learning to live on my own, etc." I can see *dating* someone in this situation if we really clicked, but if they wanted to get married less than a year after the paperwork was final, I'd gently suggest to them that their urgency to get married has more to do with their divorce than it does with the intensity of our connection.

Just realistically, it's about the divorced person wanting to turn the page, prove something to themselves or other, or make up for lost time. IMO, those are bad reasons to rush a relationship. They are actually good reasons to slow down and take some time.[/quote]

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