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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is Joan and how old is Brenda?

Joan should get legal advice about the title, her interest in the house and what each of their legal rights are in this situation.  She may also have a case for elder abuse against Brenda and should see an elder law attorney or contact the office on aging in her area. Brenda should be concerned about that.

It would probably be best if they completely separated their households.  Living together has brought out the worst in each of them.  [/quote]

Joan is near 80 but has been disabled and needing special care for her health issues for most of Brenda’s adult life. Brenda has taken on that role, even though Joan has siblings and other children. No one else has stepped up. And Brenda put the entire family on notice that she no longer wants that role. Joan probably wouldn’t still be alive if it hadn’t been for Brenda and the many many times they have cared for her through every surgery, injury, or health complication that lead to a hospital visit. Brenda is resentful Joan has not taken responsibility for her own physical and mental health and has put that burden on Brenda and her family.

I don’t think there’s abuse from either Joan or Brenda. I agree that they are in a bad living situation but I think they are both trapped financially, until Joan passes.

Joan was taken off the title because Brenda and her husband took on all of the new mortgage. But yes, it seems she claims some ownership to the house since she paid the first mortgage, pre-addition, mostly in full over 12 years.[/quote]

From what you wrote in this post, it appears there is psychological and financial abuse:
https://www.justice.gov/elderjustice/psychological-abuse

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