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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am hoping for some perspectives from others to help me make the best long term decision.

I have a 5 year old daughter and a 17 month old son. My daughter is in pre-k, and while she doesn't even have homework yet, her activities are already coming with homework! I get about 9000 emails per day from school and activities. I know this is only going to increase, and I WANT to be a supportive parent to my kids. My mom was working and always too tired to be there for me, I always felt like a burden to her.

Between trying to manage home, parenting related things, and my work (which is another source of never ending balls in the air and things I have to take care of RIGHT NOW) I am starting to be very burnt out.

I have no passion for my job, although I hoped to milk it for 5-7 more years for financial reasons.

If we downsize, we can afford for me to SAH now and still have a reasonable financial cushion. We also have funded 529s thanks to an incredible gift from my parents.

I am looking to hear from parents of older kids about where they think their time is most valuably spent as kids get older. I don't want to make a knee-jerk reaction just because i feel burnt out and possibly am not yet good at managing the demands of school/activities. Does it get easier? Just looking for honest accounts. Thank you so much in advance.[/quote]

Is there a middle ground where you work that doesn’t expect you to answer emails right away/crisis manage at off hours? I am a physician, and took a role with way less clinical time so I can be present with my school aged kids. I’m still working FT, but it’s not evenings or weekends, and it’s a big difference. It will also make it easier to transition back to my old job if I want to.

We also looked for schools that were well suited for dual working parents. My son is in a variety of activities, and all but one happen afterschool, without me having to drive him anywhere. We pick him up everyday at 5p, and he’s had his piano/chess/soccer/playground time already and the evenings are just family time. This is so much more relaxing than trying to schlep him around after school everyday, which didn’t feel great for him either. [/quote]

This approach is great but curious how old your kid is. This would have worked for my kids until age 7-8 or so and then the ECs through the afterschool program seemed babyish to my kids and they wanted to do different sports that their friends are doing. We've tried to keep it manageable but our evenings definitely shifted to having ECs around town vs at school. Wish that weren't the case. [/quote]

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