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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend just got married for the 2nd time.  She has an only child.  He just graduated from high school.  The new husband has 3 adult children, one of whom is still trying to launch (in between school and work).

They will have a home where his youngest adult child is living while she gets school and work issues back under control.  And the bride's kid will come home on school breaks.

I am optimistic that this will be okay.  The only child seems okay with it.  His father has a whole complicated thing going on at the other household.  That will never be palatable. [/quote]

So basically this young adult has one home with a "whole complicated thing" and one home with a failure to launch stepsibling who is also adjusting to a new stepmother and all the tension that brings with it, but everything will be okay. Awesome. Yay divorce, yay blending. Great deal. [/quote]

Well OP was asking if any of it ever works out.

My friend and her husband are friendly and reasonable people.  The kids who will share their home are both kids who need to figure some stuff out, but there aren't serious problems like substance abuse, etc.  And the house is massive.  So there's comfortable room for everybody.  [b]And it's nobody's childhood home.  So no territory marking.[/b]

I agree, the Ex-H's circus is a problem.  But nothing to be done about that.  Situation so bad, divorce was definitely the best solution.  I foresee that moving to a "no relationship with Dad" situation.  Already starting.  So that kind of decomplicates things because there may be no relationship left to strain.[/quote]

There is a flipside to this: no childhood home to return to and feel safe in, either. [/quote]

Understood.  But in this case the only kid grew up in three different places/houses.  And I think he and his mom were more than ready to move away from the place where their family of 3 fell apart.  With custody over, he doesn't have to get his nose rubbed in his dad's mess.  So there's that. [/quote]

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