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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is 50/50 so he does not have to pay child support?[/quote]

He’ll have a small fortune. He filed several weeks before a significant, life-changing petition. I don’t think it’s about child support so much as appearances and pride. [/quote]

Sounds like it’s your pride and appearance and you are taking the kids from dad.  The simple solution is to be flexible and switch days and weeks as needed.  Kids deserve both parents. [/quote]

No way am I going to contort myself to fit his travel schedule after divorce as if we’re still married and then sacrifice the career I need to survive just to appease his need to look like a good dad while he is unwilling to sacrifice a single thing to see his kids. There are a million jobs that pay quite well for someone like him that don’t require travel every week or every other week. He just can’t put his ego and need for external validation above his responsibility to his kids.

[b]Go back to your incel forum.[/b][/quote]

Not PP you replied to, but you need to calm down, OP. That comment was way out of line. Most parents end up having to work around some scheduling issues on their own, outside of the legal custody agreement. If your job is not flexible in this way, then he will have to figure out childcare during his parenting time. And you will not get a say. Honestly, both you and the husband seem really, really rigid and punitive. Your children are going to get the short end of the stick if you two keep that up. They will be your victims. Let's be clear about who you are both hurting here.

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That's not how custody works. If you want 50/50, commit to a consistent schedule for the kids and for your spouse's job so they can continue to contribute their share to financially supporting the children. It is not in the best interests of children for them to be expecting to be at mom's house Sun-Fri and then suddenly on Tuesday they find out they're there for just Sun-Weds because dad is leaving on a work trip the next Monday and wants extra time Thursday and Friday to make up for his trip the following week.

The only people I've heard of who do that had extremely amicable divorces, extraordinarily high net worth, and settled everything out of court and cooperatively.

Someone as described in this thread who is so hellbent on maintaining a travel schedule that is clearly not compatible with 50/50 that they're proposing the imaginary solution of flying old women across oceans is probably not a person to whom OP should be offering makeup time and flexible custody arrangements to. [/quote]

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