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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no problem with asking the grandparents to stay in a hotel and to really making the point as firmly as politely possible that it’s the only arrangement that can make sense.

What I can’t understand is why you’re all so damned nasty about your parents and the grandparents of your kids.  There’s no winning with you people.   The grandparents do too much.  They don’t do enough.  They’re too cheap.  They’re too generous.   They don’t show love.  They’re too indulgent.  Why won’t they do things our way???

The same tired refrains over and over.  Then you complain how selfish the boomers are.  But what you’re all really saying is “my way or the highway” which is the very definition of selfish.  [/quote]

Thank you for this comment.

I am not a grandparent.  I am a DIL.  I am shocked at the hatred towards grandparents, ILs, parents that I see on this forum. I am shocked at the entitlement.

I have hosted my ILs and my parents when they have visited us for [b]many months[/b] from my country of origin. They have come to spend time with us, to help us when our children were little - and we have hosted them, taken them touring USA, paid for every thing and also cried when it was time for them to go back to their home.

When our elders visited us, we would give up the master bedroom for them.  This was to show our respect to them and also to show our happiness.  It was only later that they insisted to be in the guest room.  I grew up with cousins, uncles and aunts visiting us and every one sharing rooms etc. It was so much fun. [/quote]

I simply do not understand giving up your primary bedroom to others when you have a guest room (and really even if you don't).  I'm an adult, my husband and I live in our home.  We happily have a guest room for guests to use, and air mattresses.  But I don't kick my kids out of their rooms unless it's the weekend or holidays (no school) and never for more than 3-4 days.  The guests can adjust to the available sleeping arrangements or be happy in a hotel.

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