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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. DH’s sibling and the two children in question are all the same gender and there is no specific “shared interest” to explain this. [/quote]

Why did you say siblings? And be honest about your kids. Do they act the same? Do they bicker relentlessly? Do you favor one over the other and are they taking out the black sheep to try to make up for it because you have an obvious Golden Child? I don't believe it's random and they flipped a coin and picked one.[/quote]

Normally there is a reason - favorite one is:
Male
Better looking
Good athlete
Smart
Humor 
Remind the person of themselves

Lest favorite might remind them of negative qualities in themselves
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Obviously there is a reason and OP is avoiding the question other than to say it isn't about out shared interests. It probably means the less favored one is difficult to handle and OP doesn't want to acknowledge it.[/quote]

I haven’t avoided the question. There is no reason. Doesn’t matter if you keep insisting there is. The only potential “reason” is favorite kid was the first baby born of that generation. [/quote]

I mean, being older can be reason.  I don’t like small kids and get along better with my older nieces (until the smaller ones get older).  Now I like them all!  But I didn’t care for any of them until they hit a certain level of maturity.

There IS a reason, you just either don’t know or are ignoring it.  [/quote]

Can you read? They are teenagers and I already said this. You are just trying to argue. It's not because one is a small kid. Stop showing favoritism to your niece or nephew. [/quote]

Every teenager and family must be so different. I have two teens same sex and they are very busy. They would never sit home being sad over an uncle or grandparent favoring one of them over the other. My oldest is much closer to grandparents and know one another better. No chance my younger son feels bad about this whatsoever. He is much more focused on his friends and high school life.

There have been a few times where we only have one extra ticket to a basketball game or hockey game where someone gives DH two tickets. The older one has gone to more of those last min ones but the younger one has gotten tickets for him and his friends and has gone to waaaaay more events and outings in his life because the younger kid is super social.

My childhood friend had a sister who was better than her in almost everything. They were only a year apart. The younger sister was prettier, smarter and better liked. Everyone liked the sister more, including friends and family. My friend probably thought it was about looks but the younger sister has a very easy going personality. [/quote]

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