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[quote=Anonymous]My takeaway from this is it’s cultural. Clearly, most people on this thread don’t live in NYC, where we all get yelled on the regular - often by strangers (if you want to experience getting yelled at in NYC just stand still on the left side of the escalator descending into the subway…. Hahahaha!).

Both sides of my family are from NYC and we currently live here. It’s just how people talk when they care - they talk loudly and yell and interrupt and wave their arms around and will sometimes punctuate their yelling with the rhetorical question “are you an idiot!?”

When we were living in the DC area, I quickly learned that even minimally raising my voice or gesticulating when I spoke totally freaks out people from the DMV. I think it’s cultural.

My husband is not from NYC and hates all the yelling that my family does. On the other hand, unlike my family, most of the adults in his family are divorced, often more than once. They give each other silent treatment and live separate lives in the same house and drink silently and alone. So yeah, I guess they are quiet and controlled and “polite” and certainly don’t yell, but it’s so awful. You can just feel the tension permeating the house, and I want to get out of there.

So, due to my cultural bias, I’ll take interacting with a genuine yeller over a controlled seether any day.

For demographic purposes, we are married 20 years with 2 teens.[/quote]

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