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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again. I would also like to know if I need to modify my behavior.

Maybe I should have taken a breather before commenting about the stock and thought about how to approach it more gingerly and without placing blame?

Honestly that would be hard for me, but if that’s what’s necessary, I can work on it.[/quote]

Well you are the one who was there and it seems you think you need to take a breather.

The way you initially presented this made your DH sound like a psychopath.  We don't have his side of the story.  You guys probably need counseling.[/quote]

I made a pretty loud and audible gasp. And I said “why did you throw out the broth?!” And I said it pretty immediately as a reaction after seeing the empty pot with just the bones in it.

That is just my normal unfiltered reaction. And I’m wondering if I need to stop myself before putting out the “unfiltered” version of my response.[/quote]

You need to look up the difference between "reacting" and "responding". Because you (over)reacted.

That thing you're contemplating doing, where you pause a beat/breathe and then respond? That's a response. You're an adult now, so if you haven't learned the difference, you've probably (over)reacted a LOT, and may even have a lengthy history and pattern of (over)reacting. A few sessions with a therapist to help you understand the difference and practice responding instead might be a great place to start.[/quote]

And then you'll know better and you can teach your kid better. Maybe your husband can learn to do better if/when he sees you doing better, too (but that's outside your control).[/quote]

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