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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was in your shoes with the job loss and the special needs kid. We were briefly homeless for a while. My husband's older brother took us in.

But I did not begrudge my immigrant FIL and MIL anything. They literally survived a war. They emerged out of it with nothing. My husband and his older siblings went hungry as children. He remembers nothing from the war, but he remembers the feeling of gnawing hunger in his belly - which is why he hoards food today.

I would never dare to equate any of my sufferings with theirs.

We are now in a much better place.

Maybe your in-laws are tone-deaf and insensitive. But beware of making this into a bigger crime than it is, just because you are currently feeling very vulnerable and afraid. 
Things will turn around for you. Think long-term. My SN kid clawed his way to a decent university. We have enough money now. It took time and labor to reach our current stability. You will get there too.

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Me again. Re the special needs, no one in my family or my husband's family understood. We received some pretty out-there comments, but we weren't surprised. Our families grew up with lots of health taboos, particularly mental health. To them it's all gobbledygook.

Water off a duck's back, OP. [b]You need to have a thick skin to raise a child with SN.[/b]

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I hate that comment. You think any parent of a child with disabilities doesn't know that. Really! So fing unhelpful. We deal with so much pain and heart break often the people around you who are supposed to love you cause the most. I remember times when there was absolutely no one I could confide in and had to deal with ignorant family and friends. I dropped a lot of people because I learned how awful they were wrt children who alrent high achieving. [/quote]

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