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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are two separate issues here.

One is that he hasn’t found a new job. This is a very difficult task right now, and it does sound like he should be doing more, but even if he were, you might be in the same spot. For most mid career professionals stuck in one geographic location, an hour a week checking on new postings is actually enough, because you can’t “search” your way into more roles coming on the market.

The second issue is that he is treating this line a sabbatical, during which he should be recharging, doing self-care, and strengthening relationships with friends. But you see him as an accidental SAH partner/homemaker and he is falling far short of your expectations.

By conflating the two issues I think you’re increasing your frustration. [/quote]

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Insightful post with which I agree.

[b]Divorce/separation may exacerbate OP's issues/problems.[/b]

Husband needs to get a daily chore list & complete.

Husband needs to focus on his family & on employment & household chores, not doing favors for others. This is a maturity issue.

What type of career/profession for husband. Is he qualified to teach at high school or college level ?[/quote]

Read the bold. Divorce is only going to make this work. He needs a job. THEN and only then can a divorce be considered. She can't afford two homes or to pay him spousal support and child support.[/quote]

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