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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are two separate issues here.

One is that he hasn’t found a new job. This is a very difficult task right now, and it does sound like he should be doing more, but even if he were, you might be in the same spot. [b]For most mid career professionals stuck in one geographic location, an hour a week checking on new postings is actually enough, because you can’t “search” your way into more roles coming on the market. 
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The second issue is that he is treating this line a sabbatical, during which he should be recharging, doing self-care, and strengthening relationships with friends. But you see him as an accidental SAH partner/homemaker and he is falling far short of your expectations.

By conflating the two issues I think you’re increasing your frustration. [/quote]

I disagree with this completely.  Checking on new postings is only one part of a job search and a small one at that.  He should be spending most of his time networking and going to meetings whose main purpose is to connect with someone in his industry and put himself on the radar screen.  Many jobs are not advertised at all, and many consultancies grow out of conversations like these without ever hitting a public medium. Only checking published job ads is very limiting. [/quote]

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