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[quote=Anonymous]OP it's not about "fixing" her by forcing therapy. It's about not enabling her but being her dumping ground. She decides if she gets therapy or not, but you don't make it easy for her to avoid it but letting her to this destructive dance. of course, she feels better just like a junkie feels better when he gets a hit, but the feeling doesn't last and the addiction is destructive. Of course she cycles. Mental illness often involves swings. Healthy people do not obsessively blame others and expect people to be their dumping ground. You need to figure out what YOU are getting out of this. Then you will be able to have real boundaries. You seem to be fixated on being a "good daughter" and that will make you easy to manipulate. She basically tells you that you are good for allowing her to dump. She will likely turn on you and indicate you are BAD when you set more boundaries. You need an internal locust of control. Is it good to enable bad behavior just so you get to feel like you are a good girl?[/quote]

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