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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is couples therapy excluded?  Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.[/quote]

Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.[/quote]

Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.[/quote]

+100000.

Why bring more trouble to yourself:  hiding/lying/planning for cheating.[/quote]

Cheating seems like a win/win. Either you don't get caught, and you fix your problem. Or you do get caught, presumably leading to a divorce, which also fixes the problem.[/quote]

it's only a win/win if you're a greedy coward. Getting caught blows up any hope of an amicable separation, but most importantly, blows up your reputation as a decent human being. Whatever you may gain from "not getting caught", YOU will know what you did. Enjoy that guilt, greedy coward![/quote]

NP.

While I agree with you, I also know this section of DCUM.  What the women of DCUM fail to accept / understand is:

- you are a greedy coward if you withhold sex from your partner and [b]refuse to address whatever causes you to withhold sex.
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Every month, year after year, I read posts where women decide (all on their own) they no longer feel like doing it (no libido) and further decide their husband must simply accept being a-sexual, while also expecting his full fidelity.

Sorry, but it does not work that way.  Again, only a greedy coward would do that to the person they married.  People have to either fix their libido problem, address whatever it is they find so repulsive about their spouse, or let them go.

Trapping them in a sexless marriage never ends well for anyone.[/quote]

The OP is the one saying therapy is off the table. So how is the “cause” supposed to be addressed?[/quote]

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